Navigating toxic relationship patterns 

I want to talk to you about navigating toxic relationship patterns, a powerful realization many of us face in our relationships—you’re not alone. Often, we find ourselves accepting “breadcrumbs”—those minimal gestures of affection or commitment that barely touch on what we truly deserve. I want you to know that holding onto these small tokens is entirely understandable, but I encourage you to recognize how they can lead to disappointment and emotional turmoil. This acknowledgment is the first step toward creating healthier, more fulfilling connections.

We often find ourselves making excuses for our partners’ behavior. It’s easy to think, “They’re just busy” or “They didn’t mean it that way.” I completely empathize with this. Wanting to see the good in others is natural, but let’s focus on what you truly need and deserve. I’ve seen many clients transform their lives by shifting their mindset from emotional reactions to a more pragmatic approach while still holding space for compassion—for themselves and their partners.

So, how can you break free from this cycle and cultivate more profound, meaningful relationships?

Set Clear Boundaries: Take a moment to understand your needs in a relationship and communicate them openly. Establishing firm boundaries is a powerful act of self-love that will empower you to stop accepting breadcrumbs. Are you afraid to set boundaries?  If so, it means you were taught to be nice even if it meant putting yourself last.  We can work through boundaries.  It’s not your fault.  Boundaries mean you love and respect yourself enough to care for yourself.

Reflect on Your Worth: Regularly remind yourself of your incredible value and the respect you deserve. I’ve seen firsthand how building self-esteem can empower you to reject toxic behaviors and embrace the love that truly nurtures you. Perhaps a deep dive into your inner child needs attention. Your inner child is a compilation of many ages.  Let’s bring all of your inner children along on your journey.  We can hear her/his voice, love them, and talk to them with a voice that authentically cares and supports them.

                                  Somatic Embodiment: Feeling, Physical, Emotional

Engage in Somatic Practices: Incorporate techniques like breathwork or mindfulness into your daily routine. These practices reconnect you with your body and enhance emotional awareness, helping you recognize when a relationship is not fulfilling. We feel first, and the brain processes second to feelings. Don’t ignore your feelings, physically or emotionally. Attune to your internal gut reaction. Or, wherever you feel it: chest, shoulders, pelvic floor.  Let yourself feel it all.

Create Deep Connections: Focus on nurturing relationships built on empathy and understanding. Engage in active listening, and feel free to share your thoughts and feelings. This creates a safe space for you and your partner to feel valued and understood. Empathy leads to a softening of the heart and sharing your perspective from a place of caring.  Empathy is understanding without judgment. It is love without expression. Empathy is beautiful for your soul.

Seek Support: I encourage you to discuss your experiences with trusted friends, a coach, or a therapist. Maybe all three! Gaining perspective from others can ease your journey and remind you that you’re not alone in navigating these challenges.

                Self-Care: Finding Escapism

Practice Self-Care: Prioritize activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. When you care for yourself, it becomes much easier to recognize when a relationship isn’t serving your needs and to make the right decisions for your well-being. Self-care can be as simple as going quiet for a few days without explanation. It can mean being alone in a quirky environment that nobody shares with you. The best self-care involves doing the things that no one else knows about. It’s about finding escapism from the real world and enjoying the silence just for you. It’s about those obscure moments that belong solely to you. There are no regrets and no apologies. Your self-care is as personal as you choose it to be.

By acknowledging these toxic patterns and embracing these transformative practices, you can create relationships that reflect your worth and nurture your spirit. I believe in you, and I’m here to support you every step of the way. You can change your narrative—choose a path that honors your true self and attracts the love and respect you deserve.

Feelings and thoughts on navigating toxic relationship patterns?
Please comment. I love going into a vulnerable space with you. ♥